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writes:I had sex with a guy on basically the second date ... Something I never do but I was just super attracted to him. I'm a little worried he'll judge me for it but I hope not, What's done is done anyways. How do I read his body language? After the second time we had sex (he came 3x that night) he caressed my back for what seemed like ages. It was kind of weird. I really enjoyed it but I'm not used to such tenderness from a guy, let alone so early on ... Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2010): His body language? watch for eye contact, if he faces u while talking, if he compliments you, if he mimicks any mannerisms you do, does he smile when talking to you? and lastly, listen to his tone of voice...enthusiastic? dull?..good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2010): This goes two ways. HE had sex with you on the second date TOO. He has no right to think less of you: he's exactly in the same situation.
It's unfair that women are supposed to hold off sex for as long as possible, but men are supposed to "score" as soon as possible.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2010): The best advice I can give you is to play it cool. do not act different, do not expect anything more. do not call him more or text him more than you normally do. do not ask where your relationship is going or anything, just go with the flow. And whatever you do...do not say "I have never done that before (sex on the first date."
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reader, Finn  +, writes (18 December 2010):
Sounds like you both had a good time. If he judges you poorly, it's his loss.
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reader, CJH  +, writes (18 December 2010):
 Hey everybody is different. Whether I make love on the first or hundredth date, I dont think it means I see the lady differently.
You had a good time and so did he, enjoy that and try not to over analyse the who situation.
Others may disagree but I doubt body language is going to tell you what you feel you need to know. Communication works well though! Why not ask him point blank if he see`s this as maybe growing into a serious relationship? It may sound a little scary but at the very least you should get some answers rather than having to guess and worry yourself over it which could, potentially ruin things!
As human beings, I think we all spend far too much time worrying, wondering and trying to second guess others when the beauty of life is in the moment itself.
Enjoy what youve found and stop worrying! Oh and by the way, my experience is that sex just gets better and better the more you get to know a person and the closer you become so, fingers crossed, you`ll be smiling for a long time yet.
Good luck.
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reader, daydreamer247 +, writes (18 December 2010):
I agree as to what's done is done. It sounds like you both had a great time. I would stick to more public dates for a while until you get a sence of how he feels about you. Maybe a movie or dinner. If he asks you if you want to go back to his place, play hard to get. Make up an excuse as to why you can't and if he calls you again, then he really likes you and isn't in it just for the sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2010): he seems to generally care for you just maybe slow it down a bit
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2010): Did you like him caressing your back? I take it that you did.
So, if a guy is tender and loving you find it "wierd".
Really, who have you been dating?
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